Many years ago, I heard about listening to the pings (your personal internal signal) that tell us when it’s time to move on. You hear about this more in the space of relationships: “listen to the whispers to know when it’s time to move on.”
Following the pings, you never know where they will take you. I was in my twenties the first time I can recall listening to and embracing the pings. After a very tragic life situation, I had gotten a call from my cousin in Atlanta, who suggested I come to visit. In that instant, the ping was not to visit, but rather to move. Three months later, I moved across the country without knowing anyone other than my cousin. Listening to that ping was monumental. I cultivated new friendships and lived on my own for the very first time ever. At that time in my life, I was sure that I would never live alone — I would have roommates forever.
Years later, I experienced another life-changing ping. It happened during a time in my life when I was actually ready for a change. I knew I was not happy in Atlanta, but I was also not ready to return to the West Coast. During this time, I went on an unplanned trip to Chicago. The ping hit hard. I found my new home. That move led to my new career in human resources and to eventually meeting my husband. Yes, there was a ping involved in meeting him too, and I’m going to say that, while it took some time (okay, a long time), it was a good thing to follow….
My husband and I eventually ended up back on the West Coast. As years passed, and I settled into life, I didn’t realize that I had stopped listening to the pings. Work and life became stressful. I was overwhelmed; I lost my way. I didn’t hear the whispers anymore, and quite honestly, all aspects of my life were drowning/ falling — I was no longer present for my own life. I was unhappy and disconnected at work, with my family and friends, and with myself.
Your higher self is always trying to communicate with you.
By this time, the pings were so drowned out/so muted. I wasn’t listening to the whispers of what I was feeling, and I felt lost and disconnected. Personal and professional setbacks finally shook me to the core. I realized I wasn’t who or where I wanted to be. Slowly and subtly, the pings started to enter my life again. The pings for me were small, little things that were affecting me – spiritually affecting me, prodding me toward a new direction of my life.
I began to notice blog posts and articles that were about the shadow and the benefits of shadow work. (The shadow is based on Carl Jung, referring to the part of ourselves that we choose to repress, typically from childhood.) I thought this practice might be helpful in my attempt to address and manage the deep stress of my corporate and personal life. While the concept of shadow work piqued my interest, I did not do anything about it.
That was until, on a weekend getaway with my mom, I met a florist — yup, that’s right. I was drawn into the most beautiful floral shop that I had seen in years. Here’s where the subtle pings really kicked in. I loved the florist’s work so much that I started following her on social media. One day, when scrolling through social media, I noticed that the florist had posted about a wedding that she was missing. This led to an uncontrollable urge (ping) to discover the person she mentioned. She happened to be a shadow worker. Simultaneously, I had gotten the ping to look into coaching and ultimately started down the path to become an iPEC certified coach.
How listening to the pings shifted my mindset.
As I started to listen to the pings again, I started to see shifts in my mindset, and I began to see possibilities. The truth is that it wasn’t a big jump — it literally was one baby step at a time. (I know it doesn’t seem like it was one baby step because I started doing shadow work and my coach training at the same time, but it truly was one step.)
It happens by noticing the shifts. The stagnant and weighted-down feelings slowly begin to feel lighter. It’s beginning to see possibility, or that there is even a hope for possibility — beginning to feel excited about options and opportunities.
For me, I started exploring and getting curious, doing research and uncovering the next step I wanted to take along the journey. That led to more momentum, which then contributed to clearing blocks and shifting my feelings of lack and self-doubt.
Forward motion began. Coach training enhanced my understanding of limiting beliefs and deepened my knowledge of how to do the work to uncover my internal blocks. I knew that, before I could successfully coach others, it was vital for me to internalize the message of limitless growth and of self-actualization. So I worked to acknowledge my abilities and fully accept myself. I worked to manifest the person that could effectively be the coach that my clients needed, to step into who I am today.
The journey still continues, and I embrace the truth that it will always continue, as I learn and continue to integrate and grow.
Listen to the pings – you may be surprised where they take you.
In my younger years, the pings literally moved me, pushing me to move cross-country twice, taking huge leaps of faith when it came to even having a place to live. But, as I have grown older, the pings have changed direction, so to speak. They have nudged me toward a more fulfilling career as a coach and simultaneously pushed me to do the deep work of becoming a more enlightened, integrated, and joyful person. While my journey used to be a physical one, taking me across the country, it’s now an internal one, but the momentum continues to build. Life has become an adventure again!
How do you start to listen to the pings when you are feeling lost and out of touch? Download this workbook to start listening to your unique pings and begin to understand how they show up for you.
Mari Roberts is a psychic coach, life mentor, and healer with over 15 years of experience in the corporate and nonprofit world. Her intention as your conscious consultant and empowerment coach is to bring her gifts to help you in your transformation to live in a more joyful, purposeful, and expansive way.